About

Hello, Gentle Hearts,

I’m Nelisiwe, and I’m so glad you found your way here.

If you’re reading this, you might be feeling what I once felt – hollow, unworthy, like you’re walking around with an open wound you can’t name or describe. Maybe you’re existing on autopilot, numbing yourself with endless scrolling or binge-watching, anything to avoid the uncomfortable truth that you don’t know who you are anymore.

I see you. I’ve been you.

My Story: From Scraping the Bottom to Quiet Confidence

For years, I struggled with feeling hollow, consumed by low self-worth and caught in cycles of self-sabotage. Existing felt like walking around with an open wound that I couldn’t name or describe. I didn’t feel like I belonged anywhere or was capable of any significant achievement. I knew I had a problem, but I couldn’t put words to what I was struggling with.

All I could do was engage in activities that would temporarily numb everything I was feeling. I couldn’t even feel like I belonged in religious settings because I felt like I didn’t deserve or wasn’t worth being loved just for being.

But then I made a choice: I became a learner.

I didn’t have the resources to go to therapy, so I read. I read everything I could get my hands on. I devoured information from blogs and books, subscribed to tons of email newsletters. I couldn’t afford to buy many books, so I mostly read previews on Google Books. Every free resource that I could access, I used.

Then I started to journal.

In 2020, I was retrenched from my job. Instead of seeing this as another failure, I used those months to work on my mindset, understanding my thought patterns, digging deep, and developing the language to describe what was going on with me. I eventually got to a point where I started doing the work – putting into action what I had learned, getting to know myself better,and  developing a new relationship with myself.

Fast-forward to now: it hasn’t been a straightforward journey, but it was worth it.

Where I Am Now

Today, I feel worthy of love and worthy of being. I have learned to root myself in the power of community and radiate from the inside out. I feel alive. I feel capable.

This doesn’t mean I have it all figured out now. Days aren’t the same, but I have come a long way. I understand that healing isn’t about reaching some perfect destination – it’s about learning to meet yourself with compassion along the way, recognizing that we don’t get to a point where everything is okay; we do learn to live boldly.

What I Offer You

This space exists for the person who is scraping from the bottom, like I was doing. I am not a qualified professional, and I encourage you to not only rely on these tools but also reach out to qualified professionals for further support.

What I offer is a resource that meets you where you are, if you feel exhausted and misunderstood. I have spent years trying to figure out tools that could be a guide, and now I want to share what I’ve learned.

This is information put together in a simple, understandable way, beginner-friendly for the person scraping from the bottom with fewer resources. It’s also for the person who is not sure where to start.

Here, you’ll find:

• A starting point that will awaken awareness and open channels of consciousness
• Tools to develop language to tell your story and describe your inner experience
• Gentle guidance to learn to hear what already exists within you
• Resources to unlock consciousness to meet yourself from where you are
• Support to pull yourself out and meet the YOU that was hidden by all the pain

This is your compassionate starting point for developing emotional awareness and gentle healing practices.

My Promise to You

I won’t tell you to “just get over it” or that “everyone feels this way.” I won’t rush you or pressure you to heal faster. Instead, I’ll offer you the same gentle guidance I wish I’d had during my darkest moments.

Your pace is the right pace. Your journey matters. Your healing matters.

You have everything within you to begin – not to become someone new, but to come home to who you already are.

A Personal Note

I’m not here as an expert who has it all figured out. I’m here as someone who has walked through the valley and found light on the other side. I’m still learning, still growing, still meeting myself with compassion on the difficult days.

What I offer isn’t expertise – it’s lived experience shared with love.

You’re not alone in this, gentle heart. Take your time. Honor your pace. Trust your process.

You belong here.

With care,
Nelisiwe

Want to connect?

I love hearing from you. Send me an email and tell me what brought you here – I read every message personally. Email address: info@shewhispershope.com